Dealing with the death of a loved one
إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّ إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ
Innā lillāhi wa innā ilayhī rājiʿūn
Surely we belong to Allah and to him shall we return
Death is an irrefutable fact we can’t deny. Time and again, we lose ourselves in this transient world thinking that we are going to live here forever. As a result, Allah reminds us and shows us signs with the loss of a loved one to show that everything in this world is just temporary.
Losing a loved one is undeniably a grief-stricken and devastating moment, especially for the family and close friends. Although according to Qur’an 2:156, that a soul belongs to Allah and will return to Him in time, still it is a painful moment seeing our loved one passed away. Only those people who have experienced it can truly know the depth of pain it brings when it strikes. It hurts deep down in the core that sometimes you feel numb with emotion. The Muslim community has a prescribed way in Islam on how to deal with such inconsolable loss—without violating Islamic values. These are the seven pieces of advice that can help.
1. Dua (Supplications)
Duas or supplications are the biggest weapons of a firm believer of Islam and they are unquestionable. While the believer is still alive, he/she makes Duas for our well-being, and now that he/she has gone to the afterlife, that person relies on our Dua since he/she desperately needs them now.
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Many of us have forgotten the significance of making Duas by thinking that making a Dua is all there is to do when in reality, Duas are our strongest assets to the point that they can possibly alter the decree of Allah to turn out to be another decree. With this mentality, people tend to get occupied with other acts, thinking that these acts will profit the dead, but they do not. Having get-togethers while reading Qur’an on the dead or thinking Duas are more powerful whilst at the grave are already forms of modernisations in the religion that has no authentic basis. The Holy Qur’an was made known as a form of healing and guidance for those alive. It was never the tradition of the early righteous Muslims to gather after the death on a specific day or visit the grave in order to make Duas for the dead with the perception that they will be more acceptable.
The little things we do can truly be big in the eyes of Allah. Make Duas for the forgiveness of loved ones, especially the children to their parents.
There are many ways to make your Dua. However, it should be observed in accordance with the Sunnah; take note that the best Duas are those wordings said by the Prophet.
2. Sabr (Patience)
Probably one of the hardest attribute to grasp when dealing with the death of a loved is observing patience or Sabr. Allow yourself time to heal, and don’t let death take its toll on you. Sabr enables a rightful Muslim to demonstrate reliance and contentment to the decree of Allah. This will also allow that person to be grateful to Allah despite such loss knowing that Allah will never burden a soul with more than he/she can bear and that He designed this pivotal moment to pay off the loss with something much bigger in the future.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) reminds us that a true believer will express gratitude to Allah, if prosperity attends that person, and he/she will patiently endure any adversity that befalls him, thinking that it is for his best interests.
Observing Sabr or patience does not mean we cannot feel down or cry our grief; for Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also had tears in his eyes when Ibraheem, his son passed away. But we must not hit oneself, cry excessively, tear down the clothes, and most especially question Allah’s decree. These acts are strictly prohibited, and thus, we waste away on the great reward that is to come for being patient.
3. Don’t dwell in isolation
It is quite common to be engulfed by grief with the death of a loved one. However, one must not dwell in it much, as this sends an invitation to Shaytan to become misery’s company. The ploy is to give your attention to every little thing you have, thinking that this could also be taken away from you. Love brings love while regret leads to discontentment; discontentment should not be felt, most especially to the Glorified and Exalted Allah. Let the death of a loved be a lesson of detaching from Dunya and to hold Allah (glorified and exalted be he) in your heart above all others.
4. Aiding and Forgiveness
In life, we have our own share of disagreements which may, later on, lead to holding grudges against one another. Forgiving your deceased loved one for any wrongdoings they have done to you is a great gift you can give to them. By freeing yourself from grudge or something that person owes you, you are being merciful to that person which will also lead to Allah being merciful upon you as well.
Besides giving forgiveness to what is due, a faithful Muslim also ought to help a deceased brother with any outstanding debt he or she may have left behind. The living faithful follower must also help in the funeral as well, for this is one of the obligations of a Muslim to another Muslim brother or sister. Help the close relatives or the family of the departed Muslim during their difficult time, knowing they really need any help that comes along their way.
5. Sadaqa (Charity)
Another good thing a faithful follower of Islam can do for their departed loved one is to offer charity or Sadaqa on their behalf alongside his or her own charity or Sadaqa that he/she gives while still alive. This is according to the Sunnah and one that should be taken with high importance.
Donate on projects that provide water, build a school or Masjid, or simply donate clothes and foods to charity. Sadaqa does not only mean to give money on behalf of your late loved one, but you could also do a Hajj or Umrah, just as long as you have finished your Hajj already. You can also try observing voluntary fasts for the sake of your deceased loved one. In conjunction with all of this, try to remember some of the bits of advice the departed may have shared with you and try to act them out. This will allow them to have the incessant reward for the knowledge they have imparted when they were still alive. Also, take note that by doing such acts you will benefit your own book of deeds as well
6. Occupy yourself
We all need time to heal and experience the feeling of grief as it comes. But, it is imperative to keep moving forward despite the loss. The process of bereavement carries you back to the past, reminding you of all that you could have said or done, and this makes you feel all the more depress and lonely. Thus, going back to your usual routine could become your lifeline, as this may serve as a healthy distraction to channel out your energy to do something good. One is never really prepared for this paralyzing pain, yet Allah (glorified and exalted be he) reassures us that every hardship will ease (Qur’an: Chapter 94 verse 5).
7. Reflection
Lastly, take these pivotal and precious moments of contemplation over the reality of this temporary world and that we will also depart from this transient phase to join Allah (Inshallah). We are encouraged to think about death over and over again and visit graveyards to keep us back on track and assess our current relationship and state with Allah. Do not let the evil spirits keep you busy with all the worldly needs of this world. Remind yourself especially your loved ones and the others around you that death is just around the corner. We must do more to become better servants and faithful followers of Allah. With our reconnection with Allah upon a person’s death, that deceased follower may get the rewards for your good works as well.
Feeling a deeper love for someone would also mean feeling deeper grief for that person’s loss, as they say, to grieve is to love. During the death of a loved one, we feel vulnerable, raw, anguished, devastated, and so much more. Pain can be manifested in different ways, and the coping mechanism of an individual differs from person to person.
There is no exact timeline for a healing process or grief, but in time, these sharp pangs may become blunt. But the Qur’an and the Sunnah can help us deal with these emotions more appropriately. Following these steps will not only help us recover in time, but it will also help the soul of our bereaved loved ones and ours as well. In addition seeking Counselling can help you through the grieving process.
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I am Shaheen Akhtar from Assam, India.
Thank You so much for bringing in such beautiful, genuine and worthy thoughts on death and the dead. I have lost my father in 2016 and I am sure he is resting in eternal peace. This page is rally helpful.
salamwalaikum sister. i lost my fathers sister just today, and I feel for the wrongdoigns I have done. She was taken from cancer. I feel the pain for the young children she had. I was toxic and rude to them in front of the mother who lost her life in the fight for cancer. I will always feel the remorse, may allah subhanawattalh forgive all and takes us to where we belong. This world is temporary, us staying here is a gift and we all have our times to leave and enter.
I Wouldn’t say it’s a gift rather a test
I am from Borno State Nigeria I’m very excited and greatfull on the reminder and advices you gave in this article
Alhamdulillah
Asalaam alaykum. I have lost my 22 week son due to many pregnancy complications. I’m still in grief thinking maybe it’s because of something I did that caused him to suffer in the stomach. My child couldn’t survive on earth because of disabilities. I had to abort n give him up in 22 weeks. Nothing I do or say can make how I feel go away. I wish I could speak with an scholar and share my grief. I need guidance and answers.
Assalamu Alaikum…Thank you very much for the kind and calming words of advice.I lost my husband recently, he was killed.I am deeply saddened, every single memory of him is priceless, he was very kind,loving and honest.He never kept grudges, I love him so much it hurts me that I couldn’t even get to see his last moments,i couldn’t be by his side.I know he’s in a better place because Allah Is the best planner.Kindly say a prayer for him ,I had gladly appreciate it.Jazakallu khairan.
Allah yerhama my son was killed 7/18/2021. I wasn’t with him when it happened it’s very sad Allah yerhama
May Allah grant your son and peace and glad tidings in grave…
Allah bless us all ♥️😊 be patience ♥️
Assalamualaikum , I have lost my mother yesterday due to blood cancer suddenly she got weakened and died in my hands 😭😭😭 missing her 💔💔
May Allah grant him janatul firdos Ameen n grant you sabr
Am from kwara I lost my dad two days ago and and I t seems all was over but with this kind of article it gives me strength and courage,
He was always ready for death for more than 10 years now cos he had always show me the clothes he wanted him to be buried and the perfumes and he always says whenever am travelling that we may not meet him alive but surely death has come and luckily for me I was by his side wen he was given up. Alhamdulilah.
This life is temporary
May Allah grant him Jannat-ul-Firdos and Peace and glad tidings in grave …. He’s really a upright and lovely husband . Be patience and keep Allah in heart… May you both enter Jannah together at the judgement day..♥️😊
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun. Allahum Maghfirlahu for your beloved parent.
May he rest in Peace 🕊️
Thanks for your clarification may his soul continue to rest in peace.
My son has died 😢 10/10/2021 in my womb it Is very hard to accept that my first child has passed way.i hope Allah will give me sabr soon.
I love him and miss him a lot.i try to do Dua for him every day.i hope Allah will grant him to zannat ameen.
Sister if ur child died in ur womb he then did not commit any wrong doings..ok u do not need us to pray for him to go to janaat..Allah swt is the nest of all planners ur loss was for a reason..remember this life is a test only
Mashallah, it’s a nice explanation, it will help our Muslim community who lost a loved one.
Thank you so much! خزاك الله خيرا
I lost my father 6 months ago. And this post has helped me a lot. Re-enforced my beliefs in Allah SWT & in the sunnah of the prophet. الحمدلله
Asalamualikum, I’m from Islamabad Pakistan, and have lost my father on 26 October 2020 . He was the most loving and humble human being and best father. I’m trying to cope his leaving us , but at times the pain gets unbearable.
I hope one day I’ll feel at peace . Your article has been very helpful.
Salam wa alakum brother, I have also lost my brother 6 months ago he passed away April 23, 2020 and my father passed away in 2001 I was 11 when my father passed away Allah yerhamhum this is all a test from Allah swt to test us to see how strong how faith is and Alhamdulilah we are firm believers and we are strong people of faith Alhamdulilah. Allah yerhamhum. May Allah swt have mercy on the Muslim people who have passed away before us and May Allah swt have mercy on us when it is our time to depart this earth Ameen Ameen 🙏
Masha Allahu.
Thanks so much for this page, I just lost my 14 year old lil sister three days ago due to stroke, just a young loving and caring sis you will ever wish for and I just couldn’t control myself but with the help of this page I felt relieved. Jaza kumulahu kairan to you all
May Allah bless you in abundance aameen
This Article really provides Sakoon and provide us a direction to be followed in such situation…
May ALLAH grant you reward for this and give you more power to take up such activities. Aameen!
Lost my loving father. I was in abroad conceived child and couldn’t travel to home country. I haven’t met him for 2yrs thinking I’m bearing his happiness his grandchild and I thought I will make him happy with his grandchild. When my baby was 55days old my Allah decided to take my father away. He gave me child and took my dad. I haven’t got a chance to see him atleast and hug him one last time. I feel so unlucky sometimes. He missed me alot but I was pregnant and covid restrictions banned the flights. There was no way I could fly to him. Its been more than a yr still I’m not able to cope up with this loss. I miss him everyday.
Salam alaykum.
My maternal grandmother, who is from Kashmir, passed away today due to a heart attack. This article really helped me get through.
May Allah gave you the courage to bear the grief. And make her among the people of Jannah
Innalillahi wa Inna ilaihi rajiun, 10th July I lost my wife, she was martyred by Covid 19, she was my we’ll wishers and back supporter for my business, Each second her memories touching my heart and mind. She was very supportive, friendly, kind and loving.
We must have to say Alhamdullilah and have to accept the truth of our life. Allah Is merciful and he always thinking good for us. Request to all our Muslim Umma to pray for her and all Muslims in this world. Jazakallu khairan.
Kazi from Kuwait
Mashallah very insightful information and deep expression helps us to identify and better cope up with the loss. Jazakallah
MashaAllah😘
I lost my brother 20days ago someone kill him😥😥😥but still we don’t know who kill to him😥
May Allah accept him in jannatul ferdous😥💔
May Allah bless the writer.have been grieving over the lost of my brother who passed away January 2020.
This post has really helped me become stronger and has increased my iman.
My father passed away yesterday. Please brother and sisters pray for his soul and may Allah grant him highest rank in Jannah. Ameen
My father too ppassed away a week ago.cant bear yhe pain
Thank you so much
I lost my wife early this year during child delivery. Life has been difficult for me ever sinse she left this world. But this post gave me courage, strength and guidance on how to live again. JazakAllahu Khairan
My dad Mohammed Lyoussi passed away yesterday. I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye or be there across oceans and I’m asking for Du’aa for Allah to forgive him and show him the light to his eternal Jenna InshaAllah! Allahoumma aghfir lah wa Ilya was jamee3e muslimines. Ameen 🙏🏽
Asalamaliakum
Jazak allah khair for this post. I lost my father in July 2020. It hurts a lot. May Allah SWT forgive my father and all mumins who passed away and who are alive.
Allahumma Salli ala Muhammadin wa ‘ala `Ali Muhammadin, kama sal-laita ‘ala all Ibrahima innaka Hamidun Majid. Allahumma barik ‘ala Muhammadin wa ‘ala all Muhammadin, kama barakta ‘ala all Ibrahima, innaka Hamidun Majid.
Assalamwalaikum,
I lost my brother 3 months ago and was in depression. After reading this I have gained some hope and truly believe that Allah SWT is always with us. I pray to Allah SWT to grant jannath Firdouse to my brother. Ameen
Thanks for this,it’s indeed painful losing the ones we love, I lost my mum on the 4th of ramadan,walahi it very painful,I pray Allah grant all the Muslims that have gone Aljanah firdaus
My dear colleague whom i truly love lost her younger brother today, he was very young and my heart grieves for her and her family. I am a Christian and she is a Muslim and although i will do my best to express my genuine sorrow for her loss in words and in actions this article has helped me to offer the greatest of comfort. Thank you, truly.
Ameen. I lost my dad too on 10th of Ramadhan. Its hard to cope. May Allah (SW) give strength to all families who have lost a loved one.
Thank you so much for the advice, it’s so painful to lose a loved one,I lost my grandmother and she was everything to m till date am still grieving may Allah ease it for m and I pray that Allah (SWT) 4gives all the deceased muslims and grant them Jannat firadaus ameen
JazakAllah for this beautiful well explained and backed up by hadith explaination. I lost my beloved mother on my birthday few days ago and it was very difficult for me to accept that the one who gave me birth died on the same day I entered this world. But ofcourse, birthdays are not relevant in islam and this was Allah SWT way of making me understand.
It was a relief to see this article.
Assalamu Alaikum
I lost my mom and grandmother in November only two days apart. I was in extreme pain and I didn’t even get a chance to see them.They both died due to covid 19 complications. This post helped me so much to ease my stress and please Dua for my mom and grandma to attain the highest place in Jannatul Firdouse. Ameen.
Thx you so much for the guidance. I just lost my father on 5th dec 2020. When i’m back to work, i still try to call him afterwork on the way back home like i always do, as i keep feels that he’s still alive. Remembering that make me feel so sad and i will cry a lot. Reading this help me to calm down and make me face reality and embrace the feeling.
Thx you again for this guidance.
Thank you for the time and heart that went into this advice. I lost my father three weeks ago to COVID-19, and tonight I learned my dear friend lost her husband to leukemia. He was only diagnosed a few days ago. Amidst my own grief, my heart is with her. She and her husband immigrated to the U.S. from Iraq in November of 2019. Settling into a new country amidst the pandemic has been a difficult transition for them, yet they have been nothing but thankful and gracious to their new community. We live in a small, conservative, deeply Christian, midwestern city. They are my brother and sister, and we love the same God. I have felt such peace and gratitude from my friends. I came across your advice while I was looking for information on Islamic mourning. I wish to respect and honor the customs and traditions of my friends. They are still in a new place with a new language and new culture – so how may our family be supportive in this time? Do you have any advice for my situation?
Thank you for this.. I have just lost my father 15th Dec only a week ago. As it was so sudden I can not process what has happened. I am following all these recommendations but it is still very hard as I miss him so much.. his advice will always be in my heart. I pray that he is granted the highest place in Jannah.. I hope he can feel my Dua’s for him I do everyday!!
I am a solider of allah ,I can tell you this much ,is that the believers are in a good place ,dont cry ,just rely on allah and do you’re best ,allah loves the people who are trying ,and don’t chase butterflies in this world ,and always remember allah ,and allah will remember you ,and inshallah I will see all the uncles ,aunties, brothers and sisters in jannah ,Ameen ..
Very beneficial jzk, my mother past away yesterday after spending 2 months in hospital. Not being able to see her was very painful. May Allah (swt) have mercy upon her and all who have passed and grant them the highest place in jannatul firdous
This really helps, may Alllah bless the person who wrote this page.🙏🤲
Jazak’Allah for this beautiful message.
I am writing here for I feel i need some help and before writing this, I am praying and hoping someone responds to this message.
I am a mother of 2 beautiful kids and have everything in life. However, I lost my mum to cancer in June 2020 and it was all very unexpected and sudden. Life completely changed in a few months. Mum was like no other mum, a single mum brought us (me n my bro) up being both a mum and dad. Protective, full of love and there for us every minute of our lives. i was with her almost all during her last year despite being in different country. Even her last breath was in my hand. I have tried alot but im finding it very difficult to come out of this trauma. I have never been this close to Allah as much as I am now. I pray 5 times, i do everything, i would do anything and everything just coz i remem how she used to ask us to pray and i never saw her missing a single prayer in her life. When I am doing everythin then why is it that im not getting sabr? Everyone told me sabr comes with time but now it will be 7 months then why is it that I feel all that i long is die (a natural death..not that im suicidal), just so that i can meet her. Im getting obsessed with it to the point i keep hearing lectures on life after death, burzukh, meeting ur dead ones in Burzukh etc. This keeps me moving and its like each day i wake up praying that i join my mum ASAP. Why is that i dont see the ones who are living? my kids, my husband? why am i so selfish. they look upon me but i care for none but just wish to be with my mum. why is that so?
do i need to see a counsellor or a psychiatrist? is this all abnormal? please help me. Please help me!
Salam Alaykum Iqra
I am sorry about your mother’s passing and I understand you are in pain and losing a mother is extremely difficult, they are our world and mean so much to us. Sabr comes with strength and that is what you need. Your mother is resting and inshallah with all your duas she will be granted jannah al fardous. One day, by Allah’s will you will be reunited with her however now is the time to be strong for your family especially your children. Like you, they love there mother and need there mother. We all need to remember that we plan but Allah subhana wa ta’ala has already planned and we have to accept this. Alot of people have lost loved ones and not been able to see them for the last time or be with them so keep saying alhamdlillah that you was blessed with this. You will find sabr in strength and in reliance and trust in Allah. Your mother will always be in your heart, you will never forget her but as a Muslim you need the strength to live with the void and allow yourself to move on and be happy that she died a good muslim and was healed of her suffering. Allow yourself to be a good mother to your children so they grow to love you and care for you as you did for your mother.
The prophet (pbuh) told us to be patient, his heart carried the grief of losing 6 of his children and both his parents. We are no better than the Prophet (pbuh) himself.
I wish you all the best and all the strength to find sabr inshallah ❤️
Dear Iqra Zafar
I can understand your pain as I am going through the same pain. My innocent, loving, caring, sacrificing, sweet mother passed away on 27th November 2021 because of Covid. She was in good health before that. She was the love and center of focus of us (we four siblings, all living in different parts of the world). It seems life has come to
halt. I am an assistant professor at a renowned university and I am was so grief-stricken that I received my Ph.D. degree on the 27th of November, just three months after my mom’s passing. How much I always wanted to give this degree to her, make her attend my convocation, have photos with her but on that day she wasn’t there. Life has completely changed, not a day goes by when I don’t miss my lovely mom. I don’t know what will bring us ease, but all I can say is that you are not alone, many are there who are tested this way. HAve sabr and patience and become a mother for your kids that your mother was for you. have patience and be strong. I will pray for our sabr, you and us all. Good luck. Remember us in your duas.
Sister I feel for you. I lost my father a week ago. I understand your pain. When it is your time, when it is the Qadr of Allah you will join her Jannah. Please don’t wish death upon yourself. Every soul shall taste death at their appointed time. Try and focus on your children and move forward. Don’t listen to the whispers of shaytaan. For as long as you are alive making dua your mom will benefit the rewards. In Sha Allah. Trust Allah swt.
الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاه والسلام على رسول الله،
Sister try accepting that this is the qadr of Allah swt, remember the rewards Allah gives the ones who are patient. Work for your akhira, you want to meet your mum yeah but what have you prepared for your meeting with Allah? Know that Allah has rights upon you, your nafs has a right on you,your children have right on you and your husband has right on you, so don’t do dhulma to anyone, ask Allah to grant your mum al Janna al firdaus. I recently lost my sister too, please keep her in your duas anyone reading this, may Allah give us husn al khatima.
اللهم اغفر للمسلمين والمسلمات والمؤمنين والمؤمنات الأحياء منهم والأموات
Sister, I just lost my mum, right now I cant sleep, im crying while I’m typing this message. My dad is gone too, he passed away infront of me but my mum passed due to covid complications. Its not easy and what you typed is actually you in SABR. This is natural to feel so so distraught. But while you are on this earth you can pray while you walk, go work, shopping, driving, etc and all barakah will go to your loved one amd they receive this message that their child is praying for them, they feel ease then. I have no one to cry to except Allah, my wife and son are abroad and I’m here alone. Sister we all have our appointed time, till then you are in sabr mode. Allah only burdens a person only so much that they CAN cope with. Thats not accurate translation but you are strong and your mum would want you to be strong too. Insha’Allah you are in my duas.
I found this article to be appropriate to strengthen
the people who lost their loved ones.
In Illubabor , Ethiopia
we lost Shemsedin Mussa
the great health Worker
who gave his life to his Community this week
to DKA.
Shemsedin is going to be lost by all of us.
May God give strength for his Mother, brothers, Sisters
and his Children and all whom he use to serve.
Dear sister. I was blessed with many siblings alhamdullillah. When our father died, may Allah swt give him Jannat al Firdawz, we siblings mourned. Everyone of his mashallah 10 children mourned him differently. Not because any of us loved him more or less or anything like that. But because we are 10 different people with different mindsets and different jistories and current living conditions. What I mean by this is: there is no right amount of time one needs to process the pain. Some need 3 days some need 7 months some 2 years. Of course I wish for you that your pain fades quicker, but I just wanted to tell you that there is nothing abnormal about being in that state after 7 months. Cause your mother, may Allah swt grant her Jannat al Firdawz sounds like an extraordinary parent and muslim. Mashallah. The intense love you bear for her is what makes you long for her. My brother, may Allah grant him Jannat al Firdawz, died from covid 2 days ago. His laughter was the SUN of our entire family. I know he is in the best care, cause he is in the care of our most merciful lord. And still I long to be with him. In his presence. I know that the time inshaAllah may come when we will be reunited with him. I think it is not wrong if you seek the help of a doctor or a psychologist. Sometimes one needs help. I wish you all the best and your children and family and may God be merciful towards our entire Ummah and grant us Jannat al Firdawz so that we may be welcomed by our loved ones and those who God is pleased with.
Asalam walaikum
Dear sister I feel your pain as I also lost my mom because of cancer and covid just recently in 7 feb 2021 but allahamdullilah she got negative and i got to see her one last time and still I can’t get over with it I also feel every day that I just want to meet my mom ASAP I have dad my brother my sister and her family but I’m also being kinda selfish but you know you can move on in your life be happy just think that your mom always wanted you to be happy your children’s to be happy if parents are blessing so are the children my sister and her family are away but she’s coping with it she couldn’t get to see mom as I was whole time with my mom full year my mom was also like your mom so sweet and so obedient to Allah and she always wanted us to be happy and move on in life. I know we can never forget this stress I would recommend you to see the positive sides your mom n my mom are matyr because who die because of cancer or plague like covid but I would say that Allah have blessed our moms they are in high place may Allah grant them janat ul firdos they are happy by being sad and depressed don’t hurt your mom and your loved ones who are alive and with you just stay positive and be patient may Allah gave you sabr listen positive Islamic lectures and help someone who’s distressed or sad you will feel contentment inshaAllah you have your life think about your sweet beautiful kids be there for them be there for your husband they need you more than you need to meet your mom and everyone has appointed time we will be there inshaAllah with them when our time will come just be hopeful to Allah and be thankful to Allah that he didn’t gave us too much burden maybe we couldn’t bear it he knows what is best for us so stay happy and blessed as what your mom would want for you be happy for your mom you will get the sabr in time inshaAllah
Jazak Allah khair
Asalam walaikum
Dear sister I feel your pain as I also lost my mom because of cancer and covid just recently in 7 feb 2021 but allahamdullilah she got negative and i got to see her one last time and still I can’t get over with it I also feel every day that I just want to meet my mom ASAP I have dad my brother my sister and her family but I’m also being kinda selfish but you know you can move on in your life be happy just think that your mom always wanted you to be happy your children’s to be happy if parents are blessing so are the children my sister and her family are away but she’s coping with it she couldn’t get to see mom as I was whole time with my mom full year my mom was so sweet and so obedient to Allah and she always wanted us to be happy and move on in life. I know we can never forget this stress I would recommend you to see the positive sides ur mom n my mom are matyr because who die because of cancer or plague like covid but I would say that Allah have blessed our moms they are in high place they are happy by being sad and depressed don’t hurt your mom just stay positive listen positive Islamic lectures you have your life think about your sweet beautiful kids be there for them be there for your husband they need you more than you need to meet your mom
:(:( Aoa sister
I feel the same way ,
I lost my mother 2 weeks a go and I feel that I don’t have any love to give to my kids, husband.
I just want to be with my mom.
I feel exactly the same. i do exactly the same that you’re doing.
May Allah SWT grant your mom the highest Jannah. Hope you’re doing well now. Lemme tell you one thing. Maut barhaq hai. It’s not easy for everyone to move on but there’s one thing that you need to accept, everyone has to return back to Allah Subhanwataala. It’s easy to say this, but you need to move on. Improve relationship with your families and friends. Try to socialise. Ask Allah for sabr. May Allah grant all our parents best of health and grant jannat ul firdous heart emoji
Salamu alaiki wa rahmatul allah,
I recently lost my dad due to corona and weep daily so I understand you.
Sabr will come inshallah for now let’s thank Allah we are alive and let us do what will benefit them.
If you were not serious with religion, it is now time to be pious and prayerful. Remember your prayers will improve her position in jannah inshallah. Prayer is the mumeen weapon so please pray for her.
Try to do any charity on her behalf remember even a smile is charity.
May Allah grant all our deceased Muslims loved ones jannat firdos al aalaa. Amin
Aslam alykum brothers and sisters
I have lost my mom 4days ago do to covid19 and I can’t take the pain The feeling in my heart and don’t know how to get over it please pray for my mom that Alah subane watalla grant her Jenna
It’s the grief. I lost my father 3 weeks ago and I’m the same . My heart literally aches. Just keep doing zikr when you think like this/ I’m so sorry for your loss . Nobody ever prepares you for the loss of a parent . Nobody tells you the pain you will suffer . I research the exact same thing again and again . Then I pray and do dua
ASALAM O ALIKUM sisters and brothers May ALLAH give everyone sabar ameen, I have lost my dad few days ago I humble request everyone please pray for my dad also and can everyone pray for me and my family also for sabar
We all have to remember that we have to return to our ALLAH if anyone feels that they done wrong or they have been bad to other peoples in or out of family please ask for forgiveness from ALLAH and try slowly slowly to fix up may ALLAH guide us on correct path ameen
Jaza kallah
Jazakallahu Khairan this has really helped me put things into perspective ! We are so blessed in Islam to have answers helping us to deal with different situations in life ! I lost my Mother just over a week ago and it hurts ! It hurts to know that I will never see her again in this life and I pray for the day we meet again Inshallah in the next ! Subhanallah at that moment when she passed, May Allah bless her, nothing mattered anymore all the grudges and the hate etc. it felt so petty ! So I made it a rule Inshallah to follow how my Mum lived her life to be patient and forgiving !
My beloved father passed away just 14 days ago. I am very sad and am struck by different emotions. Muslims in my family tell me not to cry, that it is the worst thing I can do for him. But how can I not cry for my beloved father? I find it cruel 8they expect me to be a stone. I can’t. I pray, I do things for my dad’s soul, may he rest in pe peace. But I want to truly grieve this loss. It is an astronomical loss for me. May Allah SWT bless my father with Jannah. I love him so much and I am grateful to Allah SWT for giving me father like I had.
Assalamu alaikum
Right now I feel empty .
Just because my wife left me & I have 2 kids
She is not showing my child
Just hiding. Me fully addict of my child but she playing with my feelings so pls refer me any aayat to get some peace ….
I feel like I’m in grave yard
You can do a lot of istighfar and say Alhamdulillah a lot.Also,just make dua in your language, talk to Allah about everything and anything.May Allah make things easier for you and reunite you in Jannah
I have lost my father on 2 february in a road accident and I am very sad nowadays but this page helped me out of this problem thanks
Walaikumsallam
Myself kulsum
I list my dear pet cat yesterday she was 5 months only she was unwell i tried my best taking her to bezt doctor n giving her treatment did lots of Dua fr her but Allah tallaha had to call her to him i m missing her lots n i cant stay witout my cat so i read this article hope i get back to normal soon i pray my pet is happy safe healthy with allah
Allah hav mercy on my pet cat and on me as well ..ameen
Asalam walaikum
Thank-you so much for sharing i just lost my mom in the first week of feb 2021 and this is very helpful my mom always wanted us to stay happy and keep praying for her.
She was the best and sweetest mom and a person everyone loved her because of her such a sweet nature she always used to tell me that always ask forgiveness and for others as well for whole ummati and keep yourself clean and home clean as Allah loves cleanliness and be good and kind to others even if you don’t like them be good behave well and be afraid of Allah and obey Allah all times.
May Allah forgive everyone of us and may Allah grant the highest place in jannat ul firdos to our loved ones and whole ummati ameen
Thank you for this article ..
My mother in law just passed away yesterday & my husband is having a very difficult time with her passing .. unfortunately my husband & I live in a different country, and my husband has some difficulties with his immigration status, so he was unable to travel to bury his mother.
He’s feeling lots of grief & is very emotional of course, but he’s also feeling guilty for not being able to be there for his mother’s ganaza .. I need some advice please with what I can do for him at this difficult time ..
I lost my own mother just 2 years ago, so it’s very difficult for me as well to see him going through the same loss .. I kindly ask for your duas & pray for my mother in law to be in the highest place in Jannah 🙏🏻
I lost my mother last month on 3rd March 2021. Suffering from cancer since last 6 years. Masha Allah she lived her life to the fullest! I stay in Dubai and she was in India, I used to visit her every 6 months. It was only last year that i met her in January 2020 and then couldn’t go after that the same year!
The only true regret I would have for life time would be, not being at her side during her death. She wanted me to visit her and as I have my own business I was completely occupied!
Family and friends console me by saying it happens, Allah makes near ones go far. Is this true? Has anyone experienced this.. please share
Dear brothers and sisters
firstly i make dua for all the beloved ones you have lost and may you all be together with them and your families in Jannat.
8 weeks ago i have lost my fiance, i would never have thought of myself that i could handle this situation full of tragedy but subhanAllah Allah swt does not give us anything we could not handle.
I wanted to give you all much love and power in your trials <3
My name is Khaleda, i’m from Brazil. There are 20 days that I lost my only brother in a terrible accident, he was driving a motorcycle when suddenly a car closed his way and he hit this car at high speed. My heart was buried with him, it has a huge hole in my chest. I don’t think this pain is going to go away quickly. I hadn’t hugged my brother in years. We fought a lot … He always apologized to me but in the last fight I didn’t let him apologize to me. When I hugged him, he was already dead. I feel remorse for that. May Allah conform my heart. All I wanted to do was feel my brother’s embrace now.
Salaam. I lost my absolute world on the day after my birthday 10.02.2021 my beloved queen my mother. She had 7 children MashaAllah and I was her youngest. My dad was not around for me she was my mother and my father. She gave me the love of both parents. Alhumdulilah I have two beautiful children one boy Muhammad one girl Safaa whom she bought up with myself she also gave them the love of a mother. She was the most kindest and loveliest woman you would ever meet with the utmost patience of struggles she had in her life but never would she complain and she would say “ I love my Allah, I want to be with my Allah” she died from COVID-19 and it was all very quick for me. I am distraught my heart is in agony like someone has crushed it. This grief stricken pain is not going away but I know Allah Azzwajal is having ajar on me. I think I may have depression only Allah knows. I wish I could just meet her quickly I would just like to be where she is. I keep reminding myself imagine the rewards I will be gaining … it’s okay not be okay but life must go on as Allah has given us this blessing called life in order to remember him. Losing a loved one is Allah calling you also back to him x
Masha Allah great input. Allah is only the helper and saviour and much more. Thanks for the reminder. It does help Masha Allah. May Allah forgive all of us who are in this world and those who have gone.
My Mother was very ill, the doctor told us that our Mother would only survive 6-7 hour and they could do no more.
My Mother has always been very scared of dying and we decided not to tell her that she was passing away.
Today i fell guilt that we should have told my Mother that she was dying so she atleast had the chance to ask Allah for forgiveness and recite shahada.
Is it a sin, and how can we make Up for this sin.
I lost my mum to cancer about a month ago and it’s been the most painful and difficult thing I’ve ever had to go through. She was the most loving and sweetest human ever. I still cannot believe that I’m never going to see her again. The feeling of emptiness is so deep and my heart literally aches. I still cry everyday and I feel her presence at home. I also replay our conversations in my head as I know what she would say to certain situations. There’s nothing in life that prepares one for the pain of losing a loved one. I pray that it gets easier and that Allah grants her Aljannah fidaus.
Dua for love back
Assalamualaikum , my father passed away recently. please pray for his forgiveness.
I wanted to know if there any connection that cat comes into the home because after my father passed away a cat came home the next day. so, please if any one knows about it ,let me know.
Sayma Sister even after my husband expired a cat came into my house and when we offered milk , the cat drank the milk and it was very friendly.
Even I would like to know is they any significance of the cat coming inside the house.
Not to sound nasty. Make shukr you haven’t lost a child. I’ve lost a parent and it hurts slot but that hurt is nothing compared to losing a child. Please remember me as well as my child in your duas. It’s been over a year and I’m going through the most difficult time. Salaams
As Salaam alaikum
I lost my husband on 5 Februay 2021. He was fighting with the terrible cancer for 6 years and then he left us . It is very painful , to live without him. I still cannot accept the fact that he is no longer with me now. Ya Allah Rabbul Aalameen , plz grant him Jannatul Firdaus.
Plz mere husband ke liye dua karna.
Sayma Sister even after my husband expired a cat came into my house and when we offered milk , the cat drank the milk and it was very friendly.
Even I would like to know is they any significance of the cat coming inside the house.
I lost my father in 2004 and mother 2 years ago – May 2019
Well written article and aids in the grieving process through the remembrance of Allah.
Duas for my late parents please.
Asc, my brothers and sisters. I lost my mom in September 11 2020 . My mom was sick for long time but she was there for us. I thought she will be a life for more years but Allah called for her. Losing my mother was very hard for me because their is no where to go when u need her, your door for janaah is closed. I pray to Allah to grant her in Janah until we met again.
Inallilah wainna ilahe rajeon–
My maternal grandfather just passed away and I pray that He and All Muslims be granted Jannah by ALMIGHTY- Amin*
Thank you for these precious advices!
AsSalaamuAlaikum.
I’ve lost 2 husbands, I’ve sat in iddat at age 33 & again now at 41. I’m beyond heartbroken and convinced Allah(swt) is angry with me. My biggest concern is whether both my husbands passed away happy with me as I’m constantly striving to build a beautiful Aakhirah. Feel like fear of my kabr is overwhelming.
Both my husbands were healthy young good Muslims and both their passing showed Allahs love & mercy for them.
I make dua daily I’ve not brought in Allahs wrath in not pleasing both.
Shukran to the author. May Allah SWT accept your efforts as perpetual charity. My father passed away 02/06/2021 Kimberley, South Africa. Due to covid regulations we couldn’t perform the normal buriel rituals from home. Covid-19 has brought us to our knees. My heart ache at the thought of so many people who are dying alone and families who are grieving and unable to bury their own families. Algamdulilah may Allah SWT grant all our deceased mercy from the azaab of the kabr, forgiveness of all their sins and janatul firdous. May Allah SWT have mercy upo this ummah. Ameen
Jazahkallah bi Jannatul Firdausi…
I lost my beloved wife Last year November in a major accident, May Allah Grant her Jannatul Firdausi A’min. I love her more than I could ever express, nd I miss her so Much.
But We will all meet in Janna Insha ALLAH, Rest on Princess
Asslamoalykum brothers & sisters,
I am from Ireland/Pakistan and lost my mother 22 days ago. A mother who had lost her husband and our father 25 years ago but she kept herself devoted to rear five of us. Each day since she passed away is a sad day for me and my siblings. I was lucky to have taken her for Umrah 2 years ago. She always kept us in her prayers. She was the pillar of our family, she was taken away all of a sudden. I miss her so much! I have good memories of her and her sabr was out of this world. She lived a graceful life and was never a burden on any single person in this world, including us. What a lady she was, I would miss her rest of my life. Inchallah we will send sadaqah in her name and keep her in our prayers forever. This life is indeed temporary, dealing with her affairs were the eyes opener to all of us, no matter how much you have, basically what you send ahead is what you have for you in the hereafter and pious children who will remember you! May Allah give us all patience to deal with the grief.
Asalaam aleikum. JazakaLLAHU Khairan. Thank you for this article it has really helped me to cope up. I lost my one and only young brother 20years old. Ramadhan 29th 1442AH. It was 10th may 2021. He fasted and prayed all salahs on time and at 10.45pm he died a sudden death. May Allah Forgive his Sins And Grant Him The Highest Place in Jannah. AMIN YA RABBUL AL AMIN.
Assalamualaikum
This article has been really helpful Masha Allah… May Allah SWT forgive our loved ones whom passed away and give us the fortitude to Bear the loss. And may Allah reward the writer and publisher of this article abundantly…
Aameen!
Wa alaykum salam warahmatullah.I hope this meets you well and may Allah comfort you and give you better than you lost.I need you to know,sister, that it’s not your fault.Whatever happened to your child is what has been decreed by Allah and He is not evil.Taking an example from the Quran,surah Duha,we learn that the Prophet (s.a.w) was going through some trying period because the revelation of the Qur’an had stopped and so he felt anxious and sad thinking Allah hated him for something he had done and then this surah was revealed to comfort him.Please try and go through the tafsir of the surah.
May it comfort you as it did the Prophet (s.a.w) and it has done me many times
Assalamualaikum it’s been one week since I lost my dad, he came home for eid celebrations where he was kidnapped from his very house in my presence and then killed. I’ve been devastated since then he worked hard for his family to survive planning on retiring fully in a couple years time. The pain I’ve felt this past days I won’t even wish that on my enemies so I’m unable to understand why anyone will kill my dad who wanted the best for people I can’t stop thinking if I did something wrong maybe after all those who don’t indulge in worshiping Allah are perhaps better than me in some way. I’ll soon be resuming school and I’m scared that I’ll be intimidated and jealous of my friends who still have their dads I’m scared I won’t be able to cope with school work. But I’ll try to adhere to this steps, please pray for my dad. I don’t know when next I’ll be happy but I just hope my dad is in a better place
Jazahkallah bin jannah thanks so much for the wonderful reminding 🙏
I am abdul Baki from Nigeria 🇳🇬
Thank you very much for the great advice
Peace be upon you
May Allah reward you immensely and grant you more knowledge.
I lost my mum on 24th July 2021.i couldn’t bear the pain .
May Allah grant our deceased love ones al-jannah firdaus.
As salam i have lost my beloved mother few weeks ago. I quit my job to look after mom but i have to bear this pain now and dua for mom daily that i will meet mom soon.pls dua for my mother Fatimah Binti Mahidin. May Allah bless us all
Assalamu Alikum brothers and sisters,
Please make dua for my father Muhammad Jamil Chaudhary who passed away ( may Allah(SWT) have mercy upon his soul) Also pray for all of the muslims that died and for Allah(SWT) to have mecy on our souls as well. Ameen
Salam,
I lost my father yesterday and feel so down. I needed to read this. Thank you so much. Rest in eternal peace Papa, je t’aime. May Allah SWT help each and everyone heal, amin 🙏🏾. Allah knows best 🙏🏾
Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters..
Thank you for the beautiful article ..
I lost my beloved husband recently due to Covid 19.
Everything in this world just loan from Allah and temporary. May Allah have mercy on all the deceased and grant us Janna Insha ALLAH
As salaamu alaykum. I lost my mum this year June, twelve days after my marriage. I believe and know that Allah’s plan is the best, but every once in a while, I feel really sad and helpless. I am glad I found a post like this. I think it would be very helpful as well as the comments beneath it. JazaakumuLlahu khayran to all.
May Allah forgive all the Muslims, the dead and living, and unite us with our loved ones in al-Jannah al-Firdaus.
may Allah swt reward you for your efforts
asalam aleykum brothers and sisters, please make dua for my brother abubakar who passed away this week , and also make dua for all the muslim brothers and sisters who died before him.
My grandma has died i am away from her. she was the most perfect person i have ever known we were gonna meet in 6 months but she passed away. She had a cardiac attack. I just want her to know that i love her more than anything and please pray for her yall.may Allah grant every single Muslim jannah!